Anonymous asked: I just wanted to say that I appreciate your thoughts and the quotes that you post- they always make me want to change for the better. And the bits about swing dancing and Star Wars are simply fantastic :) I do have a question for you: Do most guys feel the way you do about girls/relationships? Most of the guys I know seem to feel obligated to date, they complain about having to date, or they are embarrassed about asking someone out the old fashioned way. Is this just a confusing cover-up?
Thanks for the nice words.
As far as other guys go, I can’t really speak on their behalf. I know most of the guys I hang out with have good intentions when it comes to dating, but I think as humans, we naturally gravitate to what’s easy. When it comes to relationships, approaching someone (especially someone you’re attracted to) is not easy.
I could ramble on and on for days about the shift in gender roles, and adjusting your (our) expectations, and the influence cultural pressures, and a million other things. But the best thing you can do is be confident in who you are, love yourself, and surround yourself with people who encourage you to be at your best. Everything else will come naturally… or at least that’s what they say. ;)